Starting our family.. Baby Allred is on the way!!
Life is getting really exciting for the Allred family! I'm sure all of you saw our Facebook post about little baby Allred on the way... I wanted so bad to just blurt it out all over the last blog I posted. And well, all over everything and to everyone. I have a really hard time with surprises. Although, I must say I was pretty good about keeping my mouth shut about this one. A lot of you probably have so many questions and I definitely want to try to answer them for you through our "getting pregnant story" If you want to call it that. Haha.
But anyways, I've been wanting a baby ever since we first got married, I've just ALWAYS wanted to be a mom. I got my patriarchal blessing when I was either 17 or 18 and in that blessing, it talked so much about motherhood and how it would play a big role in my life. One of my favorite things in there is that it says "you're children will look up to you in every aspect of your life". This sentence in my blessing may seem so simple. But for me it has definitely been a life shaper over the last few years. I got to study my blessing a lot on my mission and I just knew that a mom was what I needed to aspire to be. And not just a mom, but one that my children could definitely look up to. Mothers also played a really big role on my mission as well. Staring first and most of all with my dear mother, Tonia. She has always been there for me and I cant imagine how she could send three of her babies out into the world all at the same time, but she did it with such grace. It may not have seemed like it in highschool but one of the many things that I aspired for was for my mom to be proud of me in every aspect of my life. We grew SO close on my mission, closer then we had ever been and it was then that she became my best friend and I realized just how important of a role she has played in my life. Then in my second area on my mission, many of you may not know- but I am adopted. My birth mother, Kelly passed away and although I don't know her, I was adopted so so young and Jim and Tonia have always been mom and dad, I was SO heartbroken. Even though I didn't know Kelly, I have to be grateful for her because she is the one who gave me, Kyle, and Kelsey life. And not only that, but she gave my mom the children she knew she was missing for so many years (that's a whole different story) and us the mom that Heavenly Father knew we needed throughout our lives. Something that was super cool that I realized throughout this time is that my mom was my mom way before she even adopted me and my siblings. I wont get super into all that, I'm mainly just starting to babble. But later on in the mission, Tylers mom (Tina) and step-mom (Tracy) started emailing me and I was able to build a relationship with both of them. To be honest, his mom's played a HUGE part in getting us together. So I guess what I'm trying to say is that moms and motherhood have played a big role throughout my life. I honestly don't know where I'd be without my loving mother, her love and support. And my mother in-laws as well. They make being a mom so exciting, aspiring, they are the people that I will look up to even more so when our little bean is born, and the next, and the next.
But moving forward.... Me and Tyler had decided when we were engaged that we would wait till he was graduated with his bachelors from SUU before we got pregnant. But of course, being married and so in love, especially with fellow friends and loved ones getting pregnant and having babies- makes a woman baby hungry and boy was I. I told Ty and he was definitely not for the idea so it was time for an ultimatum, puppy or baby. Hahahaha. Just kidding (sort of ) but we got a puppy as you all know and he is the cutest thing in the world. (even with how bad he is sometimes). We moved to Cedar City and we started talking more and more about having a baby sooner then we had planned and I was more for it than Ty was, of course. Ty started warming up to the idea, especially when our sister Ashli had her baby and being in the hospital holding him sort of made him baby hungry too. However, he was still determined to wait. We had done a lot of personal prayer and one day, Tyler had told me that he was ready. Of course, I was ECSTATIC!! We came up with a plan and for those of you who don't know, I literally search through anything and everything on the internet so we had read that it can take at least a year for couples trying to finally get pregnant. Tyler thought this was perfect because he didn't want to have a baby RIGHT away. Three weeks later (still a little too early to know for sure) I just decided to take a test for fun. I cannot tell you how many tests I have bought through this process. More than 10 for sure! Haha. It came out negative and I was upset, Tyler was very positive through it all and just assured me that it would happen. A couple days later I took another test, and it came out positive, I probably took three or four more after that just to be sure. I told Tyler and he was completely shocked! When he got home from work we didn't say much because we were both surprised at how fast it happened, we weren't expecting it at all. Even though we were shocked, we were SO excited to be parents. I cant even explain all the emotions that come with that excitement. Fear, anxiety, stress. Most of all, pure excitement and happiness. We also knew that it was what God wanted so we took it with open arms.
We told our parents and siblings the same week we found out and it was an exciting time for sure! Of course my mom, Tina, and Tracy all cried. Our baby is definitely lucky to get our parents as grandparents.
When I was about 6 weeks, there were some complications that happened. I had to go to the ER and have an emergency ultrasound which didn't seem like such an emergency because we were seriously there for about 3 hours... Mostly my fault because who even knew that your bladder had to be full for an ultrasound? NOT ME. I had to drink SO much water until I felt like I REALLY had to go. It was a crazy day. A frightening day. I struggle with anxiety and sometimes that anxiety leads to depression and my main worry was, "if the baby isn't going to be okay, am I going to be able to handle it?". I'm SO grateful for Ty, because he was sending positive vibes throughout the whole thing. I was diagnosed with a threatened miscarriage which meant that the ultrasound looked completely fine but they didn't know why I was having the complications that I was. They ordered me to pelvic rest and a blood test to see how high my HCG levels were. The waiting to find out whether or not I was going to have this baby was the worst part of it all. Being on pelvic rest and having multitudes of time to think was just stressing me the heck out and heaven knows stress is very bad for baby. It was once to get to talk to my mom so much about all that was going on. She had three miscarriages and she was able to help me realize what it would be like if I ended up losing the baby, but she also comforted me by researching things about it for me and reassuring me that the ultrasound is the biggest indicator of what's going on.
I'm so grateful for the priesthood because my husband and our good friend from our mission, they were able to give me a blessing from my Father in Heaven. And in that blessing, I found so much comfort that everything was going to be okay, no matter the outcome.
I ended up taking a blood test and the results were negative, they didn't say much but basically that my blood levels weren't necessarily where they thought they should be.
I was still experiencing morning sickness and all the normal pregnancy symptoms, the abnormal symptoms had gone away. THANK GOODNESS! But it was still waiting.. waiting.. and waiting.. I waited for two more weeks before I could go see my doctor for another ultrasound to see exactly what was going on. We went in when I was about 8 weeks along and it was the most special visit because we got to hear our little baby's heart just a beating away, we could see everything. The umbilical chord, the legs and arms, even the spinal chord. It was so surreal and such a relief. The doctor reassured me that the baby was completely fine and that I would most likely go on to have a healthy pregnancy.
Its crazy to think that I have a human developing inside me and that in 6 short months, me and Tyler will be parents to a sweet little boy or girl.
I'm now 12 weeks pregnant (as of tomorrow) finished with the first trimester, WOOHOO! I'm starting to show, just a little bump. Although if you looked at me, you wouldn't be able to tell at all! My morning sickness has started to vanish immensely (for now at least) and we are getting excited to get ready to just have the baby already and start our cute little family.
I know I've just babbled on and on about this pregnancy, but I'm just so excited that I cant help it!!
Other than pregnancy, I promise there are other things going on in our lives. Ty is still going to school, but he changed his major. Remember last time when I said that he was going to be a physical therapist? Yeah, well Heavenly Father has a different plan for Tyler's schooling. We aren't exactly sure what it is. But Ty has changed his major to psychology and his minor will be criminal justice.
Exciting, I know! As long as he is happy, I am happy. He could change his major a million more times and I would hope that he knows that he has my support through whatever he wants to do.
Till next time, my friends!
But anyways, I've been wanting a baby ever since we first got married, I've just ALWAYS wanted to be a mom. I got my patriarchal blessing when I was either 17 or 18 and in that blessing, it talked so much about motherhood and how it would play a big role in my life. One of my favorite things in there is that it says "you're children will look up to you in every aspect of your life". This sentence in my blessing may seem so simple. But for me it has definitely been a life shaper over the last few years. I got to study my blessing a lot on my mission and I just knew that a mom was what I needed to aspire to be. And not just a mom, but one that my children could definitely look up to. Mothers also played a really big role on my mission as well. Staring first and most of all with my dear mother, Tonia. She has always been there for me and I cant imagine how she could send three of her babies out into the world all at the same time, but she did it with such grace. It may not have seemed like it in highschool but one of the many things that I aspired for was for my mom to be proud of me in every aspect of my life. We grew SO close on my mission, closer then we had ever been and it was then that she became my best friend and I realized just how important of a role she has played in my life. Then in my second area on my mission, many of you may not know- but I am adopted. My birth mother, Kelly passed away and although I don't know her, I was adopted so so young and Jim and Tonia have always been mom and dad, I was SO heartbroken. Even though I didn't know Kelly, I have to be grateful for her because she is the one who gave me, Kyle, and Kelsey life. And not only that, but she gave my mom the children she knew she was missing for so many years (that's a whole different story) and us the mom that Heavenly Father knew we needed throughout our lives. Something that was super cool that I realized throughout this time is that my mom was my mom way before she even adopted me and my siblings. I wont get super into all that, I'm mainly just starting to babble. But later on in the mission, Tylers mom (Tina) and step-mom (Tracy) started emailing me and I was able to build a relationship with both of them. To be honest, his mom's played a HUGE part in getting us together. So I guess what I'm trying to say is that moms and motherhood have played a big role throughout my life. I honestly don't know where I'd be without my loving mother, her love and support. And my mother in-laws as well. They make being a mom so exciting, aspiring, they are the people that I will look up to even more so when our little bean is born, and the next, and the next.
But moving forward.... Me and Tyler had decided when we were engaged that we would wait till he was graduated with his bachelors from SUU before we got pregnant. But of course, being married and so in love, especially with fellow friends and loved ones getting pregnant and having babies- makes a woman baby hungry and boy was I. I told Ty and he was definitely not for the idea so it was time for an ultimatum, puppy or baby. Hahahaha. Just kidding (sort of ) but we got a puppy as you all know and he is the cutest thing in the world. (even with how bad he is sometimes). We moved to Cedar City and we started talking more and more about having a baby sooner then we had planned and I was more for it than Ty was, of course. Ty started warming up to the idea, especially when our sister Ashli had her baby and being in the hospital holding him sort of made him baby hungry too. However, he was still determined to wait. We had done a lot of personal prayer and one day, Tyler had told me that he was ready. Of course, I was ECSTATIC!! We came up with a plan and for those of you who don't know, I literally search through anything and everything on the internet so we had read that it can take at least a year for couples trying to finally get pregnant. Tyler thought this was perfect because he didn't want to have a baby RIGHT away. Three weeks later (still a little too early to know for sure) I just decided to take a test for fun. I cannot tell you how many tests I have bought through this process. More than 10 for sure! Haha. It came out negative and I was upset, Tyler was very positive through it all and just assured me that it would happen. A couple days later I took another test, and it came out positive, I probably took three or four more after that just to be sure. I told Tyler and he was completely shocked! When he got home from work we didn't say much because we were both surprised at how fast it happened, we weren't expecting it at all. Even though we were shocked, we were SO excited to be parents. I cant even explain all the emotions that come with that excitement. Fear, anxiety, stress. Most of all, pure excitement and happiness. We also knew that it was what God wanted so we took it with open arms.
We told our parents and siblings the same week we found out and it was an exciting time for sure! Of course my mom, Tina, and Tracy all cried. Our baby is definitely lucky to get our parents as grandparents.
When I was about 6 weeks, there were some complications that happened. I had to go to the ER and have an emergency ultrasound which didn't seem like such an emergency because we were seriously there for about 3 hours... Mostly my fault because who even knew that your bladder had to be full for an ultrasound? NOT ME. I had to drink SO much water until I felt like I REALLY had to go. It was a crazy day. A frightening day. I struggle with anxiety and sometimes that anxiety leads to depression and my main worry was, "if the baby isn't going to be okay, am I going to be able to handle it?". I'm SO grateful for Ty, because he was sending positive vibes throughout the whole thing. I was diagnosed with a threatened miscarriage which meant that the ultrasound looked completely fine but they didn't know why I was having the complications that I was. They ordered me to pelvic rest and a blood test to see how high my HCG levels were. The waiting to find out whether or not I was going to have this baby was the worst part of it all. Being on pelvic rest and having multitudes of time to think was just stressing me the heck out and heaven knows stress is very bad for baby. It was once to get to talk to my mom so much about all that was going on. She had three miscarriages and she was able to help me realize what it would be like if I ended up losing the baby, but she also comforted me by researching things about it for me and reassuring me that the ultrasound is the biggest indicator of what's going on.
I'm so grateful for the priesthood because my husband and our good friend from our mission, they were able to give me a blessing from my Father in Heaven. And in that blessing, I found so much comfort that everything was going to be okay, no matter the outcome.
I ended up taking a blood test and the results were negative, they didn't say much but basically that my blood levels weren't necessarily where they thought they should be.
I was still experiencing morning sickness and all the normal pregnancy symptoms, the abnormal symptoms had gone away. THANK GOODNESS! But it was still waiting.. waiting.. and waiting.. I waited for two more weeks before I could go see my doctor for another ultrasound to see exactly what was going on. We went in when I was about 8 weeks along and it was the most special visit because we got to hear our little baby's heart just a beating away, we could see everything. The umbilical chord, the legs and arms, even the spinal chord. It was so surreal and such a relief. The doctor reassured me that the baby was completely fine and that I would most likely go on to have a healthy pregnancy.
Its crazy to think that I have a human developing inside me and that in 6 short months, me and Tyler will be parents to a sweet little boy or girl.
I'm now 12 weeks pregnant (as of tomorrow) finished with the first trimester, WOOHOO! I'm starting to show, just a little bump. Although if you looked at me, you wouldn't be able to tell at all! My morning sickness has started to vanish immensely (for now at least) and we are getting excited to get ready to just have the baby already and start our cute little family.
I know I've just babbled on and on about this pregnancy, but I'm just so excited that I cant help it!!
Other than pregnancy, I promise there are other things going on in our lives. Ty is still going to school, but he changed his major. Remember last time when I said that he was going to be a physical therapist? Yeah, well Heavenly Father has a different plan for Tyler's schooling. We aren't exactly sure what it is. But Ty has changed his major to psychology and his minor will be criminal justice.
Exciting, I know! As long as he is happy, I am happy. He could change his major a million more times and I would hope that he knows that he has my support through whatever he wants to do.
Till next time, my friends!
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